The only thing is, we can never go back to normal. Our lives have all been changed. We have lost a loved one. Raymond Richard Aiden…a father, a grandpa, a father-in-law, a friend. His presence in our world was not normal, it forever changed each one of us for the better.
Death is normal, but this does not feel normal to me. It feels wrong. I feel cheated. I feel as if my family has been cheated. The world has been cheated of time with this amazing man.
There was not a single moment from the time that Eric and I first started dating that Gramps (aka Raymond Richard) didn’t make me feel as if I were a part of the Aiden family. It wasn’t normal to feel so at ease with a family, but it was easy.
He always had a smile, a laugh and a hug to give, even when you knew he wasn’t feeling well. It’s not normal to be so happy all of the time.
When my father died 6 years ago, Gramps became my father-figure, the man I knew would take care of me as if I were his own daughter. It felt normal. It felt good to know that I did have a “dad” by my side.
In the 22 years of being with Eric, Gramps only got mad at me once. How could this be? Not normal. He called me to talk it out and then it was over. I, on the other had, found myself being perfectly normal and got mad at him a few times.
We have to find our new “normal” now. What will that look like? Right now we are all struggling to find our way, to find a new way that will be different and feel different. Some of this process will be normal…we will grieve, remember, cry and laugh. We will be angry and question why we lost our loved one. We will reflect on our last words, actions and things we may have taken for granted when we thought we had more time. All of this is normal.